‘I knew the day was coming. I forced a smile when it happened, but the honest truth is, my heart wanted to burst out into big, bubbling tears.’

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“It happened yesterday.

I knew the day was coming. I’ve known for quite a while, like when all the leaves have turned red and brown and floated gently to the ground and you know winter will soon be making its appearance, but you still aren’t quite prepared for that very first frost. I forced a smile when it happened, but the honest truth is, a big part of my momma heart wanted to burst out into big, bubbling tears.

My son instantly yanked his hand away when I offered it to him.

Not because he was mad, or because he was being disrespectful, but because he’s growing up and he thought it would be babyish to hold my hand during a movie.

I know growing up feels so natural to a child, but it feels so unnatural to a mother.

It’s like blinking and waking up in a whole new world, like falling asleep in the middle of a movie and feeling like the final scenes have come far, far too fast.

We grow these babies, and then we birth these babies, and we feed these babies. We stay up with them all night long, swaying shushing them softly to sleep. We let them sleep on our chest, and we nurse them back to health when they are sick. We carry them. We plan our days around them. We take them to play dates, and mother’s day out, and we push them on swings at the park.

We sneak out of their room after we’ve laid them in their crib for the night, and sometimes we sneak back in at midnight just to wonder at the beauty that is them as they dream. We fold tiny baby onesies and we wash tiny baby bottles. We rush to pick them up when they fall, and we film as they take their first steps.

We cry when they cry. We laugh when they laugh. We love them in a way they won’t ever fully be able to fathom until they become a parent themselves.

And then, we watch as they grow. We witness as they become more independent and need us a little less and a little less.

I always think of a bird watching its babies hop out of the nest she has so carefully constructed, placing each feather, each twig with care and precision for the first time, trusting they will fly, but knowing the hard, unforgiving ground isn’t far away.

And sure, growing has its perks. You won’t find me complaining on Saturday morning while they pour their own bowl of cereal alone while I’m still lounging like a lazy bum in bed. You won’t hear one peep out of me when we’re done with diapers. You won’t hear me whimper when I watch them wash their own friggin dishes from another room where I’ll have a white couch and a glass of wine and two wonderful minutes of peace and quiet.

But it’s odd to love someone knowing they will eventually leave you. It’s weird to let someone go after holding them so close for all those sleepless nights. Maybe it’s the way an artist feels when their masterpiece is sold to a stranger in a matter of seconds.

But I know what I felt when I offered my son my hand and he refused.

And I know I’ll feel it a million more times between now and the time he journeys on to find his own place in this world.

I’ll feel it the first time he falls and doesn’t want me to bandage his boo-boo up. I’ll feel it the first time I ask his what’s wrong and he tells me to leave him alone. I’ll feel it the first time he goes through a major heartbreak and he tells me I could never understand and shuts the door in my face.

But as many times as he may decline my outstretched hand in the years to come, as much as it may sting, I’ll never stop offering it to him. I’ll never stop letting him know I’m near. I’ll never stop letting him know I care. I’ll never stop letting him know he can always find a soft place and a safe home to land with me. Over and over and over again.

I’ll never stop letting him know I am there for him no matter what, no matter when, no matter how.

No matter the mess up he’s caused, no matter the times he’s failed, no matter the uncertainty he may feel. No matter the pressure that’s piling up, no matter the chaos that swirls about. No matter the pain, no matter the fear, no matter if the rest of the world runs away and doubts him and turns their back.

I’ll be there.

He may not always want my hand.

I pray I’m raising him so that he won’t always need it, but my hand will always be right there, outstretched and open just in case.”

Amy Weatherly

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