“I was angry. Enraged is more like it. I realized my major problems started at the end of 2013. What had I done differently that year? I had birth control inserted in my arm. It was just a hunch, but I knew deep down I was right.”
“I would hear the words, ‘I want a divorce,’ for the first time, on our honeymoon. A friend had an intervention with me. An aunt told me, ‘You know, you don’t have to do this,’ right after we were engaged. I remember scoffing, thinking, ‘All it takes is commitment.’”
“It’s the things I no longer remember that hurt so deeply. What it feels like to wrap my arms around his neck to hug him. I no longer remember the feeling of joy he brought me. Loving him feels like a lifetime ago.”
“When this woman went to the bathroom I told the kid it was okay to express his emotions. You know why women have to fear violent men? Because of THIS that represses boys and men. Crying doesn’t make you weak. Fear doesn’t make you weak.”
“He would scream bloody murder to get in the bath tub, and became obsessed with wearing ‘soft’ clothes. It was like walking on eggshells since an explosion could happen at any moment for no reason. I chalked it up to him being a toddler, with a new baby brother and all the changes military life brings. Over time, I knew this was not the case.”
“I don’t have all of the answers. But I do have this. I do have this one thing to offer.”
Parents, our children’s “misbehaviors” are symptoms of a much deeper problem that can’t be ignored any longer.